LOVE MARRIAGE OR ARRANGED MARRIAGE
“I love marriage because…
we refine each other
we experience intimacy
we reflect God’s love story”
Marriage is something that has crossed our minds at some point in our lives. Some people think its bullshit while others believe in it with complete faith.
But there are so many things that are involved in it. We are not an island. It’s not like whatever we do will have no effect on others. We’re all linked up.
No matter how independent you are, you are dependent on one thing or another. We CAN’T survive on our own completely.
In the same way, marriage is something that is affected by different cultures and religions. The beliefs and practices are different all over the world.
But the true meaning behind it is the same everywhere – there are two people who vow to be together.
Love Marriage, is when two people love each other and wish to get married, regardless of anything.
They have fallen in love and now want to get married.
Arranged marriage is very common in the South Asian areas, and it was very commonly and widely used before the nineteenth century.
Love was something that was seen as forbidden. No one really had a choice when it came to marriage. But times have changed and equality is being promoted all over the world.
The real question here is which is better – love marriage or arranged marriage?
However, according to statistics, arranged marriages prove to be more successful, and the divorce rates are quite low in arranged marriages.
If you have someone you love, then without doubt, you should go for love marriage, and fight hard for it. Do whatever you can, to marry the person you love.
Tell your parents, your guardian, or whoever is in charge of getting you married. It is usually seen as shameless for girls in South Asian societies to fall in love and get married. But remember, it is not something to be seen as disgraceful.
It is human nature to have feelings for someone and want to start a life with someone.
This is a right that should not be denied to anyone.
In love marriages the love is already there, but in arranged marriage the love has to slowly and gradually be developed, since you’re not in love with the person you’re getting married to, hence the name “arranged marriage”.
Arranged marriage is also an option, if there isn’t anyone in mind. But as days pass by it gets very impractical.
There’s nothing wrong with arranged marriage, if you know the person you’re going to get married to.
You can take precaution before getting married like this. Know the guy or girl you are getting married to. Check their background, and be willing to give them a chance.
It would be nice to get to know someone before you make the choice of spending the rest of your life with them. This is another reason why it is desirable to perform “love marriage.”
No matter how much you know about someone, marriage is a big decision and you can’t exactly pick up a random guy from the street and decide to marry him. You need someone compatible, trustworthy and these are qualities that you have to see for yourself to feel ready for such a thing.
With that being said, arranged marriage isn’t disastrous. Parents always want the best for their children, so they would never intentionally destroy someone’s life. They would want the best spouse for their children. They would want their children to be happy.
The trick really is to keep a positive approach. Do what you can, and leave the rest up to fate. Pray that whether you get arranged marriage or love marriage, it is successful.
Do all that you can to make the best happen, and all will be good.
Remember, everything has its pros and cons. YOU decide which is more favorable.