“I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not and to love within the warmth of you heart and always call it home.”
– The Vow
“105 is the number that comes to my head
When I think of all the years I want to be with you
Wake up every morning with you in my bed
That’s precisely what I plan to do.”
– Jason Derulo
Are you ready to ask him or her “the question?”
It takes a lot of courage and determination to be ready to ask someone to marry you. It is a big step. And while people can go around having crushes, this isn’t something that can be toyed with.
So, now you have found your significant other. You have found the person you’re compatible with. You have found the person you want to spend the rest of eternity with. You have found the person you want to stay with through thick and thin, and you have found the person who you wish to keep with you through all times.
All these things are great, amazing actually.
But the question here is, how do you ask them to marry you?
People don’t give this much thought, but it’s actually quite a big thing. It’s a splendid moment, for both the person who is proposing and the person that you are proposing.
Don’t sweat it. It’s not that difficult. The difficult part comes after the wedding!
It doesn’t matter what your gender is. Proposing someone can be nerve wrecking, and can have you so confused! It tends to make even the most confident people nervous.
The first thing you have to do, before you ask him or her to marry you (and this goes for doing ANYTHING in life) is think about it.
Think before you do it
Think about it – thoroughly.
Marriage is a big step, and it’s okay to want to take your time. It’s okay to establish yourself as an independent person and then focus on getting married. It’s okay.
No matter what, this is something that you should NOT do under any sort of pressure, from society or your beloved.
When you’ve decided that this is what you want to do it, you decide HOW to.
How are you going to do it?
Doing something special and nice for your significant other doesn’t necessarily have to make it expensive. This is a big moment, so you have to put in a lot of effort to make it memorable.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the romantic runner. If you haven’t, let me enlighten you.
There was a runner who took his girlfriend on a run back to the place where they first met. When he showed her the GPS route that they took, it spelled out the words “Marry me?”.
This is just an idea. The point is, do something different, that shows you care. Girls usually over think and look very deeply into even the simplest of actions. So if you’re asking out your girl, something like this would guarantee a yes from her side.
It’s these little things that show we care. It only requires a little bit of creativity and effort on our parts. That’s all it takes to make our loved ones smile.
Next, you need to pick out a ring. It’s the traditional way of doing it. Its cliché, but it works every time. Pick something according to your budget, that’s not too costly yet elegant. You know your girl’s choice better than anyone else, so choose accordingly.
Maybe its not destined to be this way. In that case, you need to be prepared. The answer could always be no. You need to accept that, and not take it too hard on yourself.
Remember, be confident and be classy. Dress up, do it nicely. If things work out, you want this moment to be significant, memorable and special in both of your lives so you have to do it keeping this in mind.